Caregiving

Caregiving

 

To care for those who once cared for us is one of the highest honors. 

― Tia Walker, The Inspired Caregiver: Finding Joy While Caring for Those You Love

 

Although men do get old, WOMEN GET OLDER. For that reason aging in place and care-giving are women’s issues!

Caregiver Profile

Age – 49

Gender – Female

Recipient of Care – Mother

Average Caregiving hours/WK – 20

See:

Powerful Tools for Caregivers

A Book by Jane Gross A Bittersweet Season: Caring for Our Aging Parents—and Ourselves

 

“Informal Care”

Informal Care

I cared for both of my parents as they prepared to leave this world and to the end. I don’t look at it as a burden, but as their final gift to me. The last chance I had to show them that all they taught me, had done for me and had hoped for me had meant something. That they had loved me and I them. I carry that love in my heart and hopefully share it daily with the family that is growing up with me as part of their elders. So don’t assume your needs will be seen as a burden to your kids, regardless the challenges they face, but an opportunity to let them reflect back you all that you have given them.

Best wishes.

-Donna Thomas, Caregiver

 

“Informal Care” is unpaid

 AARP’s research shows a family caregiver (like you) that is 50> who leaves the workforce to provide care for a loved one, forgoes on average $304,000 in lost salary and benefits = Your Retirement! (see Women and Aging: Unprepared and Unaware)

Long distance Caregiving

Many don’t live near parents; which defines a Long Distance Care Giver. Some say that’s oxymoronic, not possible—still droves of good daughters (and sons)find themselves in this position.

Here’s a Resource

Family Caregiver Alliance Handbook for Long Distance Caregivers

Included: How to assess your care situation; develop a care team; hold a family meeting; access community organizations and private agencies; and balance work and caregiving.

Next Step in Care: A Family Caregiver’s Guide to Care Coordination 

 

Help is available

Mom or dad has Alzheimer’s or a related dementia? You’re not alone. The Alzheimer’s Association is the trusted resource: Call our 24/7 Help line: 800.272.3900
Locate a chapter in your community

 

For Boomers:

Who will provide care for childless Baby Boomers? 

Caring knows no geographical boundaries and takes many forms…

 

End of Life Care

 

End of Life Care

Mother’s Watch

by Andrea Hill

I sit beside you, Mom

On death’s doorstep you lay

I set my head upon your wrist

As I bow my head to pray

The world to me shut off

The silence here is thick

Alone just you and I

And your watch’s rhythmic tick

I block out all my pain

And loss I’m sure to feel

I concentrate now deeply

On the tick your watch reveals

I sit here now for days

And hear the rhythmic sound

I contemplate you being gone

The thought now seems profound

The time for you is near

To enter Heaven’s Gate

I’ll stay here by your side

Until your journey is complete

It’s months now since you’ve passed

My wounds are healing slow

I want so much to hear your voice

To see your smile’s glow

I lay my head upon my wrist

When my feelings are too strong

I hear your watch’s rhythmic tick

And know you’re never gone

The caregiving journey ends and your life continues…

Resource

Aftergiving.com: A Resource for when caregiving ends, beginning a New

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